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Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Changing It Up


The Bay Area holds so much history for me; while bartending at a quirky diner in The Marina District, I discovered I had received my first book contract.  However, San Francisco was so much more than a canvas for my literary dreams. It was living proof that I could beat the odds and carve a special place for myself in a city oozing with success and accomplishment I hadn't yet achieved. 

I moved to SF knowing zero people. Over the course of a year, I created lifelong friendships with some of the most creative, ambitious souls on the planet.

Callie Schneider thoroughly loves her home in NorCal. However, she feels compelled to embark on a new adventure elsewhere, for reasons she can't quite explain to her roommates or coworkers. So she begins making plans to move, then waits to see if the stars align. She has a specific, nearly impossible dream...and, after years of deliberation, she's finally ready to chase it from one coast to the other.


Love,
Lisa


***
Chapter 9: DECEMBER 29

Where are you flying today? Hope your flights are great, Andrew’s text reads.

I glance at the phone, then place it face-down on the kitchen table, breathing slowly to calm my racing heart. My laptop rests in the center of the table, but I can’t bring myself to reach for it.

“Callie, you look pale,” Linda comments as she rushes into the kitchen. She opens the refrigerator and grabs a tupperware full of leftovers. “Everything ok?”

I nod. “Yeah. Just nervous to check the base bids. I mean, I think I got Fort Lauderdale. But it’s still just...intimidating.”

Linda sets her tupperware on the counter and grabs a seat next to me, at the table. “Want me to do it?” She asks nodding at my laptop.

“It’s ok. I don’t want to make you late for work…”

“Don’t worry about it,” she says, waving her hand. She glances at the clock on the wall. It’s just after 9 a.m. “I was running late anyway. Since today’s a holiday, most people aren’t coming into the office at all. I’d rather check your bid, to be honest. I’m curious to see whether Giovanna will be my new roommate on February first.”

I swallow and tie my hair into a loose ponytail. “Ok. Can you check it for me? God, why am I so nervous? This is what I wanted, right? I’ve been mentally prepping for a move to Florida. So why the hell does it feel so...scary…”

Linda grabs my laptop and presses a few keys. “What’s the internal site for SkyLine? Is it easy to find the base bids?”

“Super easy. It’s like four clicks, total,” I inform her, burying my face in my hands. My voice comes out muffled. “MySkylineLink.com, and the login is CSchneider. Password is ‘Amber.’”

“Girl crush?” Linda guesses, her eyes fixed on the laptop screen.

I laugh and peek at my roommate through my fingers. “No, you loser. That was my childhood kittycat.”

“Mmmm,” she murmurs. “Ok, I’m in. What next?”

“Toolbar, all the way to the right, there should be a drop-down box labeled ‘base assignment list’ or something like that.”

“Got it.”

I sigh and lower my hands. “See the link for the updated assignments? Click on that. My seniority number is 3250, so you’ll have to scroll through and find that.”

Linda pauses for a second. “I found it! That’s strange, it says you’re new base is New York…”

“What?!”

“Just kidding,” she smiles, handing me the laptop so I can see for myself. “You got FLL. Dammit, Callie! You’re really leaving us?”

I nod, unable to formulate any words.

Linda sighs heavily. “We will miss you! You better return to San Francisco as soon as you find yourself, or kill your writer’s block, or reconnect with your inner child. Whatever dumb reason you’re moving to Florida! I’ve already forgotten…”

“Change of pace,” I remind her, fixated on the three-letter airport code next to my name. “Holy hell. This is it, huh? Switching coasts in a month.”

Linda rises from the table. “Happy New Year, Callie Schneider. I’m pissed you’re leaving us, but I know this is what you want.”

I look up at her. “You’ll hardly notice I’m gone, Lin. I’ll be back before the end of next year.”

Tammy marches into the kitchen in her pajamas. “Wait, what?”

“Callie officially got the Fort Lauderdale base. She’s leaving us on February first,” Linda announces. “I guess we will have to throw a going-away party.”

“I’m not leaving forever,” I remind them both. “More like, I don’t know… a temporary-break-from-CA party.”

Tammy nods. “Not your typical party theme, but I could work with that…”


Friday, December 7, 2018

New Year's Eve


July 4th has always been my favorite holiday, but New Year's Eve is a close second. As a lifelong daydreamer, I thoroughly enjoy envisioning where the next 365 days will take me. My predictions are almost always wrong! Thankfully, the real journey tends to be far more surprising than I had imagined. 


Of the 34 NYEs I've experiencing on this spinning globe, my favorite ones have always taken place in warm climates. There's something magical about wearing short sleeves while waiting for the clock to strike midnight. 


The main character in my 13th novel, Callie Schneider, is spending her New Year's in Atlanta. She'll head to Miami the following day; that girl is always chasing the sunshine. I can certainly relate. 


xoxo,


Lisa





Chapter 10: DECEMBER 30

Our hotel in Atlanta is right beside the airport, in an area that doesn’t have much to offer besides lodging. The shuttle drops us off in front of the lobby, which twinkles with Christmas lights. While waiting for the driver to unload our suitcases, I glance through the parking lot in search of a restaurant that’s walking distance. Past the rows of cars and trucks, all I can see is a Holiday Inn and a Hyatt Place.

              “Anyone hungry?” I ask my crew. “I might go down to the hotel restaurant. Doesn’t look like there are any other options nearby.”
              The pilots tell me they’ll come downstairs to grab a bite, and Jordan says he will join us too. Tess, the short redhead who was flying in the back of the plane, informs the group that she’s too tired.
              We check in and ride the elevator up to our rooms. Mine is small and simple, with white walls and light gray furniture. I slide out of my uniform at record speed, eager to get some grub. It’s almost eleven o’clock; I rarely wait this long to eat dinner. After changing into a hoodie and leggings, I head downstairs.
              Have fun with the guys tonight, I text Andrew while waiting for the elevator.
              His response arrives instantly. You too, Cal. I hope you have a great New Year’s. Can’t wait to see you tomorrow night.
              I shove my phone in the pocket of my sweatshirt, keeping my head down as I make my way through the hotel lobby. The hotel restaurant is dim and quiet; only a few tables are occupied. Frost lines the window panes on one side of the restaurant, giving that section a hazy glow. Jazz music is piped in through speakers. It plays softly in the background while customers dressed in business suits sip their drinks. I realize that my outfit is incredibly informal for a bar like this, but I decide against going back to my room to change.
One waitress appears to be covering the entire restaurant. She sashays from table to table, dropping off cocktails with elaborate garnishes on top.
              Nobody from my crew has arrived yet, so I select a corner booth and slide into the middle seat. The waitress shows up within seconds, offering me a menu. When I tell her I’m expecting a few more people, she returns with three additional menus.
              I’m browsing the appetizers, all of which sound delicious, when Jordan arrives.
              “Hi Cal,” he says. He sits down beside me, close enough for me to smell his cologne. He’s wearing a gray v-neck sweater with dark-stained vintage jeans. His arm brushes mine when he reaches for his menu.
              “You clean up nice,” I tell him, nodding at his attire.
              He smiles. “You, too.”
              “Liar,” I say, glancing down at my faded sweatshirt and leggings. “I only had one cold-weather outfit in my suitcase. So it was this or a strapless black dress.”
              Jordan lifts an eyebrow. “I’d like to see that, please. It’s not too late to go change... ”
              I’m taken aback by the implications of that comment. Before I have time to respond, both pilots join us. The slide in to my right, filling up the rest of the booth.
“Does anything on the menu look good?” the captain, an older guy with a 70s-style porn star mustache, asks us.
“I’m just here for the drinks,” Jordan tells him. “Haven’t really looked at the food.”
“A drink does sound good,” the first officer notes. He grabs the drink menu from the center of the table. “Looks like they have a bunch of craft beers.”
The waitress returns and takes our orders. I’m the only person at the table who asks for a non-alcoholic beverage. I glance around to see if anyone noticed, but my coworkers appear unconcerned. They are talking about New Year’s resolutions.  
“Do you have a resolution?” Jordan asks me.
I shrug. “Not exactly. They aren’t really my thing; I set goals all the time, not just on January 1st.”
“What are your current goals?” the first officer inquires.
“Hmm. Within the next few months, I would like to adopt a cat. I also wouldn’t mind if I got something published. Not necessarily one of my novels, but a poem or short story would be fine. I’d like to see something in print.”
Jordan nods. “Those sound like realistic aspirations. I hope you get published, Callie.”
“Wait, you write books?” the captain asks, glancing up from his menu. “For fun?”
I nod. “Um, yes. I’m a nerd. I wrote my first book several years ago. It’s addicting. It’s like getting a tattoo; once you have one, you want a million.”
“Where are your tattoos?” Jordan asks.
I bite my lip. “Oh, I don’t have any. It was just an analogy.”
“So you’re making comparisons to things you don’t even have…” he notes with a half-smile.
“I have a tattoo,” the captain announces, catching us all off guard. He lifts his shirt sleeve to reveal a slightly faded anchor tattoo.
“Nice. I see you were in the Air Force,” Jordan jokes, and we all burst out laughing.
The waitress arrives with our food and drinks. The guys raise a toast before taking a sip of beer. I clink my water glass against their beer mugs; nobody seems to care that I have the most boring beverage at the table.
“Can I have a bite?” Jordan asks, eyeing my spinach and artichoke dip.
“Sure,” I tell him. “If I can try your IPA.”
He scoops a heaping pile of dip onto a tortilla chip and pops the whole thing in his mouth. “That’s a fair trade.”
I grab his mug and take a sip. It’s hoppy, with a faint fruity aftertaste. “Kinda bitter, but not terrible,” I note aloud.
“You can have more,” Jordan tells me, reaching for another chip. “If you want.”
I swallow another mouthful and hand the glass back to him, fully aware that if I keep it in front of me, I’ll drink the entire thing. I lean back, into the booth cushions. They’re fluffy and cozy. The pilots are talking about home improvement projects, but I’m only half-listening as I polish off my spinach and artichoke dip.
“Cal,” Jordan whispers, wrapping an arm around me.
I look down at his fingers around my waist, surprised at the tingling soaring through my body. The pilots are still engrossed in conversation over the best way to construct a toolshed. I tilt my face upward, toward Jordan.
“Where’d you go?” he asks, the corners of his hazel eyes scrunching up as his mouth forms a partial grin. “You were off in space, Cal. I ordered you an IPA. My treat, since I ate half your food.”
I swallow. “Thanks, Jordan. I’m trying to cut back, so I might just drink half of it…”
“I’ll finish what you don’t,” he assures me. “Also got a flatbread for the table to share. I figured we are all hungrier than we originally thought.”
My phone buzzes from inside my pocket, but I don’t dare to check it. Jordan’s arm feels so good around my side. Mesmerized by the restaurant’s tranquil atmosphere, I remain completely still, trying to cling to this perfect scene. Everything has been spinning so quickly lately, spiraling out of control while I’ve stood, bewildered, at the center of the storm. But in this exact second, the world feels calm.
“You are beautiful,” Jordan tells me, his eyes locked on mine.
“Huh?” I ask, tilting my head to the side. “I feel gross from flying all day. And I’m basically wearing workout clothes.”
“Doesn’t matter,” he tells me. “None of that matters. You stand out, Callie. You’re different.”
The waitress sets our food and drinks on the table, stirring me from the moment. A flatbread sits directly in front of me, still sizzling. Steam rises from the plate in circular wisps. I reach for a knife and carve myself a small slice. Jordan releases his grip on my waist. He slides one glass of beer toward me and raises the other one to his lips.
“We’re calling it a night,” the captain announces, placing a few bills in the middle of the table. “Early show for us tomorrow.”
“You’re not going to wait for the ball to drop?” I ask the pilots. “Fifteen more minutes until midnight…”
The first officer shakes his head. “Nah. We are old.”
“Older than dirt,” the captain tells us, chuckling as he rises from his seat. “Good night, guys.”
“Night,” I say as the pilots walk toward the elevators.
Jordan scoots closer to me. “Smile.”
Suddenly there’s a phone in my face. I grin as the forward-facing flash goes off.
“Instagram story?” I guess. “Do I look dumb?”
Jordan shakes his head. “No and most definitely no.”
He shows me the image. With the lighting in here and our complimentary complexions, the picture turned out pretty good. Jordan has a movie star smile, which makes for a great photo.
“I don’t post much on IG,” he reflects. “But I do add photos to my website every now and then, even though I have been out of the acting biz for a couple years. Not sure why I still update it. Some dreams die hard.”
“I’d like to see your website,” I tell him. I reach for one last slice of the flatbread. “Is it a blog? A portfolio of sorts?”
“Not a blog,” he clarifies. “It has my bio, union affiliations, and resume. I used to do career updates every time I landed a job, but I haven’t done anything in a while. Aside from being involved in local theater in Cocoa Beach.”
“Do you sing, or just act?”
“Both,” he says. “I’m better at acting, though.”
“I suck at acting, but my singing voice is ok. Or so I’ve been told,” I say, shrugging.
“I’d love to hear it,” Jordan tells me.
“Maybe someday. If you’re lucky.”
“Hey, I can send you the photo. Type in your number.” He hands me his phone.
I roll my eyes. “Really? That’s the oldest trick in the book.”
“So what? Doesn’t matter how old a trick is if it still works,” he says with a sheepish grin.
I type my number in his phone and hand it back to him. He looks at me for a second. The corners of his mouth move, as though he’s considering saying something. I lean in just a little bit. My cheeks are reddening but I can do nothing to stop this process.
10, 9, 8, 7…”
We both turn toward the television screen near the bar, where a countdown flashes in big, bright letters.
“Six! Five!” I shout along with all the other patrons in the restaurant.
“Callie?” Jordan asks, scratching his chin while the countdown continues. “Is it, um, is it ok if I kiss you?”
“One! Happy New Year!”
I nod, knowing full well that I might regret this in the morning.
Jordan holds my face in his hands, gently, and pulls me toward him. His lips are soft. My body seems to melt into his; somehow I end up with an arm pressed to his chest, my fingers resting on his collarbone.  When I open my eyes, he’s smiling down at me.
“Thanks,” he says. “Happy new year.”
“Hmm. I…I have to go to bed,” I stammer, pulling my gaze from his. “I’m so sorry, Jordan. Just tired. We had a long day today.”
“Let me walk you back to your room,” he offers.
“That’s ok.” I place some money on top of the stack left by the pilots. “Thank you, though. Get some sleep, Jordan. I’ll see you tomorrow.”
I hurry toward the elevator, never looking back. The lock screen on my phone displays a series of notifications, including the photo from Jordan. I quickly scan the other texts that came in. Mackie sent me a sweet New Year’s message and my roommates sent a couple photos from the house party they attended in the Mission District. Of course, there’s a message from Andrew.
You deserve everything good in the year ahead. Happy New Year, California.
I sigh and wait for the elevator to bring me to my floor. Then I hurry inside my hotel room, eager to scrub this night off my skin.
A message from Jordan lights up my phone screen while I’m washing my face. Didn’t mean to scare you off. Sleep well, Callie.
Without responding to anyone’s texts, I turn out the light and crawl into bed.

Thursday, December 6, 2018

Coast to Coast



My thirteenth novel was inspired by my real-life cross-country journey from Orlando to San Francisco (then back to Orlando...then back to San Francisco). I loved the slow, easy pace of Florida life as much as I relished the exciting buzz of living in The Bay Area. For me, SF's magic was like nothing I'd ever seen before. Meanwhile, Florida's quiet comfort felt reassuring and safe. My gypsy soul craved both extremes, apparently. 

It's interesting that I wound up in Dallas, halfway between both coasts. My husband, home, and furbabies are in North Texas. We'll be here for the foreseeable future, but I am so thankful for the bi-coastal adventures woven into my life story.

Callie Schneider, the protagonist in this novel, doesn't have a set plan. She flies by the seat of her pants, always eager for the next opportunity to try something new.  She's living in San Francisco but making friends around the country. Her life's about to change drastically; although she can't see what's coming, she's up for the challenge.  She just doesn't realize it yet.




Chapter 4: DECEMBER 23
“Callie!” Teresa yells from across the crew room.
I glance up from my computer and wave to Teresa. Then I hurriedly click a few keys, completing my check-in. Teresa meanders through the sea of suitcases and lunchbags until she is directly beside me. We walk to the printer together.
“Hi lady,” she smiles. Her vest looks look freshly-ironed. Her shoes are so clean they shine, unlike my scuffed-up heels. “Where are you flying today?”
I retrieve my trip sheet from the printer and read my pairing aloud. “Let’s see…San Francisco to St. Louis to Pittsburgh.”
“Pitt? Bummer,” Teresa says, grabbing the sheet from my hand. “How about tomorrow night? Oh, you’re in Orlando. Hmm, I have double Austin layovers.”
I groan. “The Marriott by Congress Street? That’s one of the best overnights in the system. I’m jealous!”
She hands my sheet back to me. Then she glances in the mirror beside the check-in station and toys with her blond hair. “You still living in Pac Heights? With those two girls who work downtown?”
“Yep. Tammy and Linda. They’re both in finance.”
Teresa’s brown eyes sparkle. “You’re really living it up, huh? I’d kill to live in that area. You must love it.”
I nod. “I got a great deal, rent-controlled and all that. It’s pretty surreal. Our apartment is central to everything.”
Teresa smiles. “That’s an understatement.”
“How’s Spokane?” I ask. “Is it cold there now? Snowing?”
She nods and pulls a pair of polka-dot earmuffs from her oversized purse. “Don’t laugh. I have to wear these when I commute home. Spokane has been an icebox lately, and it’s only December.”
“If you have to wear earmuffs, at least you got cute ones,” I say with a shrug. “I like the colors.”
“Zack bought them for me! That clown actually has a matching pair. In fact, he was wearing them this morning, when he commuted in,” Teresa says.
I pause as an idea forms in my mind. “Zack Friedman? He’s flying today?”
Teresa nods. “He was in the crew room a minute ago. I think he just left.”
“You know where he’s heading?”
She bites her lip. “Uhh…I think he said Phoenix then Denver. Or maybe Denver first, then Phoenix?”
I reach for my suitcase and jog toward the exit. “Thanks, love! Have a good trip! See ya around.”
It’s noisy in the terminal today, with holiday travelers crowding every walkway. Kids run and play, oblivious to the world around them. Every seat in the airport appears to be occupied. Christmas music blares through the speakers, the lyrics to “White Christmas” getting stuck in my head as I scan the departure screen.
“Phoenix leaves from gate 14, Denver from gate 11,” I note aloud.
I reach gate 11 first. The flight crew is waiting by the jetbridge, their uniforms crisp and clean. There are two older ladies and a younger one with stunning green eyes. No sign of Zack, though.
Gate 14 is so crowded that it takes me a minute to spot the flight attendants. Zack leans against a window, waiting for his plane to arrive. I sidestep toddlers and a service dog to get to him.
“Zack!” I say breathlessly.
He turns toward me. “California! Hey girl! Merry Christmas…almost.”
I wheel my suitcase beside his. “Thanks, you too. Teresa told me you were in the airport today.”
“Yep. Starting a three-day trip,” he says with a nod. “You?”
“Same. Pittsburgh and Orlando,” I tell him. “Hey, uh…I have a weird question. Did you get any of those boys’ numbers when we were in West Palm?”
Zack winks at me. “I sure did. You trying to get in touch with Andrew? One night wasn’t enough?”
If only you knew, I think.
“Something like that,” I say.
Zack scrolls through his phone. “Well, I saved Daryl’s number. Here…I’m forwarding you his contact info. I bet Daryl will be happy to give you Andrew’s number, or at least pass your number along to him.”
I check my phone and Juan’s number lights up my screen. “Thanks, Zack. I owe ya.”
He pulls me into a side hug. “Don’t mention it. Know what? We should pick up a trip together next month. It would be fun.”
I nod. “Sure. And if you’re ever get stuck in the bay before or after a trip, feel free to crash at my place.”
The buzzing of an aircraft gets louder; Zack’s plane has arrived. I glance outside. This particular plane has been painted for the holidays. Snowflakes cover the fuselage.
“Well look at that. I got the Christmas plane for my Christmas trip,” Zack notes with a smile. He heads down the jetbridge. “Have a good one, Cal!”
As Zack disappears from sight, I shoot Daryl a quick text. Hey, this is Callie, the SkyLine flight attendant who visited West Palm with Zack Friedman. Just wondering if you could send me Andrew’s number…I never got a chance to write it down…
Daryl’s response arrives before I even make it to my departure gate. Sure. Andrew talks about you a lot. He’d love to hear from you.
I snort as I read the text. Andrew talks about me “a lot?” We spent eight hours together…and we slept half those hours anyway.
Daryl must be thinking of someone else, I reflect..
***
When we land in Pittsburgh, it’s dark outside. I check my cell phone. 10:16pm.
Vera, a tall girl with a gorgeous complexion, is flying the lead position. I’ve seen her around the base before but this is our first trip together.
She completes her closing announcement as we taxi into the gate. “On behalf of this entire crew and all of SkyLine Airways, thanks for flying with us today. Welcome to Pittsburgh! Enjoy the holidays.”
I hop out of my jumpseat as soon as the airplane reaches a stop.
“Cal, you coming downstairs for a drink tonight?” Vera asks as she disarms her door.
I lift the girt bar on my door then turn toward Vera. “Nah. I would, but I’m too exhausted. Plus it’s a short layover.”
Vera smiles understandingly. “True. Thankfully, our Orlando layover will be much longer.”
The shuttle ride to our hotel is fairly quiet. Both pilots are playing on their phones and the flight attendants are talking about our new crew hotel in Boston. It’s snowing outside, big snowflakes that pile up quickly.
In the hotel room, I collapse on my bed. For about thirty seconds, I stare at my phone screen. Then I slip out of my flight attendant dress and throw on an oversized t-shirt. I sit up against the headrest and dial Andrew’s number.
“Hello?” Andrew’s voice explodes in my eardrum after the third ring.
I swallow. “Oh, hi Andrew. This is Callie, the flight attendant who was in town on Halloween. Sorry to call you so late.”
“Callie! Hey! I’m glad you called. Daryl told me you asked for my number today. I would’ve reached out to you sooner, Cal.  But you left in such a rush that morning, I never even got your number.”
That was on purpose, I note internally.
“How are you?” he continues. “How have you been?”
“I’m fine,” I lie. “Just traveling and trying to stay warm. It’s snowing in Pittsburgh tonight. You doing ok, Andrew?”
“Yes. But I’d be better with you here.”
“It was just one night…” I remind him.
“Which is why I would like more time with you,” he clarifies.
I roll my eyes at his enthusiasm. “Listen, Andrew, there’s something I wanted to talk to you about-“
“Over dinner, maybe?” he interrupts. “Are you flying back to West Palm anytime soon?”
I turn on speakerphone and scroll through my SkyLine app to find my monthly schedule. “Uhh, let me check…I don’t have any PBI layovers in January. I have one in Miami, on January 1st.”
“Hmm. A week from now,” Andrew notes. “Where are you this weekend?”
“Pittsburgh tonight. It’s snowing here. Tomorrow we work three flights to Orlando.”
“Orlando! That’s not far from me. What time do you arrive?”
“6 p.m.,” I say.
“I’ll pick you up at the airport. There are some great restaurants in Winter Park, which is only about twenty minutes away. We can get something to eat.”
“Are you sure?” I ask him. “It’s Christmas Eve, Andrew.”
“That’s not a problem. Restaurants should be open.”
I pause. “What about your family; won’t you be celebrating? And Isn’t it a long drive for you?”
“We are Jewish so we won’t be going to church, if that’s what you’re asking,” he says. “And I don’t mind the drive. See you tomorrow at 6.”
As soon as I close out the call, I search the distance from West Palm to Orlando. Google informs me it’s a two and a half hour drive. Without traffic.
“Andrew, you’re a nutcase…” I mutter as I drift off to sleep.

Friday, August 18, 2017

Higher




Yesterday, I lost my temper with an elderly lady. This woman walked with a limp and appeared to have trouble breathing. In the middle of a Dallas park, on a warm and sunny morning, I screamed at a complete stranger over the age of 80.
"What am I becoming?" I asked myself as I walked home afterward, staring at the ground.

Several hours prior to that unsettling outburst, I woke up determined to get some exercise. Thoughts from last weekend swirled through my mind; I couldn't figure out how to wrap my head around the horrific Neo-Nazi rally in Charlottesville. More importantly, I didn't know what I could do to make any difference. I don't have a law degree or a position of power. I'm not currently involved in activist or social justice groups.

I do consider myself a fairly decent writer...yet I couldn’t rely on that skill yesterday morning. See, in the wake of perhaps the most alarming display of hatred among those belonging to my own generation, I had no words. Typically articulate, I found myself unable to express my disgust for the extremists I could've gone to high school or college with.
The same questions replayed in my mind: how does this kind of hatred still exist today, has the past taught us nothing about equality/respect for others, who showed these people how to hate minorities so deeply and so violently?

I was appalled, and also heartbroken, that members of my own race felt threatened because their skin color no longer provided them with a guaranteed seat of power, the way it had in past centuries.
So I decided to jog away my wordless anger. The goal was to lose myself in the sunny Texas outdoors and somehow, hopefully, find some kind of peace. Even just for a moment or two.

En route to the Katy Trail, I passed a tree-lined park which contains a statue of a man riding a horse. A small crowd had gathered in front of the monument.
Curiosity got the best of me, luring me toward the crowd. As I got closer, I realized this statue which I'd passed dozens of times was actually a tribute to Robert E. Lee.

The monument shows General Lee riding a horse beside an unnamed soldier. Below, a plaque explains that this soldier represents the valiant Confederate youth who fought in America's Civil War.
I read this plaque for the first time yesterday. Immediately, I discovered that the monument was constructed in the 1930s...more than half a century after the Confederacy had lost to the Union, thereby abolishing slavery and redirecting America's path.

The date of the statue seemed to prove that its donors cherished--and reminisced over--an earlier time.
Furthermore, as I inspected the statue closely, I concluded that Robert E. Lee was posed in the most heroic stance possible. Not only was this man the focal point of the park, he was depicted proudly leading another soldier. His cape even fluttered behind him, giving him the appearance of a divinely-ordained being.
The message was unmistakable: this statue was more than a portrayal of an historic event. It was a way to glorify a man leading the South’s quest to preserve slavery. It was, and is, a public tribute to one the ugliest moments in our nation’s past.
Swallowing, I backed away from the statue. I tried to view this scenario objectively, instead of filtering it through my (admittedly) liberal lens.
It didn’t seem like a partisan issue, though. I just couldn't understand how someone could possibly justify this Confederate symbol without acknowledging everything it represented.
My conclusion was that there is simply no way a person could support this clear abomination unless, 1) he/she denied historical facts or 2) he/she secretly appreciated the statue’s message, and agreed with the inequality it praised.  

I moved toward the side of the monument, where a frail old woman stood, explaining to the growing crowd that Robert E. Lee hadn't owned slaves (which is historically inaccurate). She went on to claim that he served as not only a hero, but also a dedicated educator.
Suddenly, after days of quiet contemplation, I found my voice. In the midst of one stranger's fictitious tirade, I remembered all the words I'd forgotten during my period of confusion and mourning.

And I used those words to verbally attack a human I considered, in that precise moment, my enemy.
I condescendingly asked the lady what economic system Robert E. Lee's army was fighting to preserve, and what type of labor that economic system depended on. I jeered at her, demanding to know which side had won the Civil War. My tone of voice alternated between elitist and derisive.

"Which other war can you recall where the generals of the losing side have statues erected in their honor?" I taunted her. “Do you think there’s a reason we've chosen to put these specific men on display, even though technically they are treasonous criminals?”
I told her there's a difference between rewriting history (as those in favor or removing Confederate landmarks are often accused of) and refusing to heap admiration onto historical figures touting oppression, racism, inequality, and ignorance. At one point, I think I compared Southern generals to Hitler. It all unfolded pretty quickly.

I proposed that if we'd like to pay tribute to the South's founding fathers, maybe we should replace this Robert E. Lee statue with a statue of a slave, bound in chains.
Except I didn't exactly say any of these things.

Instead, I shouted them, channeling the same terrifying anger I had seen in footage of the alt-right this weekend. My face was red, my fists clenched. I spoke to this woman as though she were sub-human. Maybe I even believed that, in the moment.

I had become no better than my opponent. In an instant, I embodied the same hatred of those I sought to prove wrong.
The lady immediately spewed venom at me. She wrote me off as a left-wing extremist, a self-obsessed liberal on some phony crusade. She screamed that I was wallowing in ignorance and needed to brush up on my history. Without hesitation, she looked me in the eye and asserted that my narrow-mindedness is the reason this country is on a downward spiral.
At that point, I walked away, realizing the fury behind my outburst had allowed a stranger to label me. My raw aggression had given her justification and resolve.
Hatred breeds more hatred. This isn’t a new concept, but it became especially clear to me when I found myself drowning in animosity...and unleashing that rage on a total stranger.
I'd approached a somewhat rational discussion with the intent to viciously decimate my enemy. In doing so, I had embraced the belief system I sought to dissemble.
Yesterday, my desire for widespread acceptance morphed into antipathy toward those condoning inequality. Basically, I "combated" blind rage with even more blind, unfiltered, elitist rage.

I have no idea how to open bigots' eyes to the fact that stereotypes and oppression are inherently wrong. But what I do know is that hatred hinders progress and education. Hatred is the root of narcissism, not the precursor to justice. I can't defend equality and the intrinsic value of human life by devaluing the human lives on the other side of the spectrum.
There has to be a way to shun prejudice and violence without resorting to its proponents' proudest tactics. There has to be a better way.
Michelle Obama famously stated, "When they go low, we go high."
We have reached a critical moment in history. White supremacy (which has felt somewhat distant in my lifetime) has resurfaced. It's reared its ugly head, and seems to be gaining momentum. This insidious movement has been met with, at best, tepid disagreement from the president of the U.S.
Those of us in favor of freedom and equality can let hatred dictate our actions...or we can go higher, as Michelle Obama advised. It’s possible to oppose a belief system while remaining rational and collected. We can fight racism, genocide and oppression without using the same tactics as its most outspoken leaders.

Neo-Nazis are a new wave of American-bred terrorism. The rage I expressed toward anything/everything they represent was my own coping mechanism for the fear they invoked within me. I can’t let that fear (or the anger it spawns) control my actions. Instead, I need to follow the sage advice of our former First Lady, and rise above that which I view as reprehensible.
Yesterday I went low, which was a mistake.

They have already gone very, very low...and now, while vehemently opposing those hate-fueled beliefs and actions, it is our turn to go high.

Love,
Lisa
 

Monday, June 12, 2017

Yes.


I'm rarely awake to see the sunrise, but today I did so at 35,000 feet above ground. 

It's a much different experience from this perspective; rather than watching a glowing orb ascend from the horizon, at this height, you see a stream of colors dancing below. Gradually, that medley of light rises until it encompasses the plane.

This morning, as the sun gained prominence in the sky, I decided to walk through the cabin. Something sparkled on my finger, illuminating my left hand. I stopped for a moment. Right there in the middle of the aisle, I paused to admire the diamond band given to me exactly two days ago. The ring itself is breathtaking. The story behind it is even more amazing. 

I was never entirely convinced I would meet my life partner. The older I got, the more it seemed that marriage was designed for other people; for me, relationships typically ended in heartbreak and disappointment. 

And then, one day last fall, my mindset changed. People always say that when you know, you know. In the past, I often thought I "knew." Then I would watch that certainty dissolve over time.

I met Derek on a busy day. My entire life was in transition, and he walked me through that messy period with a kind of grace I never knew existed.

Early on, I realized this man is everything I love in this world. And everything I aspire to be.

I didn't just know that derek was the one for me; I believed it, embraced it, clung to it and celebrated it. There's knowledge, and then there is resolve. I resolved to love him with my entire (bruised) heart. I vowed to try my best because this person was unlike anyone I had met; he was far better than anything I could've ever imagined. 

Last Saturday, I came home to rose petals sprinkled across my staircase like confetti. The trail of flowers led to my bedroom, where Derek awaited with a single question. I blurted out "ABSOLUTELY!" before he had even finished speaking. 

I'm not just content at the prospect of spending my life with this man; I'm honored and mesmerized by it.

So I said yes on on Saturday. I'm thrilled to offer Derek my whole heart, for my whole life. He's my unexpected sunrise, more radiant than predicted. I cannot wait to navigate this world with my best friend and hero.

Let's go get married, baby. Thank you, in advance, for all the decades and memories and adventures that await us.

Love, 
Lisa


Thursday, March 2, 2017

Risk


Dear Derek,

I met you on a really warm night, in a really crowded bar, after a really long day. 

Everything about our first interaction was hyperbolic, from the fact I'd nearly been assaulted in the parking lot to the pleasant surprise that the Cubs were heading to the World Series. 

Lights twinkled and shrieks erupted that night. Fancy urban cocktails literally exploded into flames before our eyes.

You were dressed for a wedding instead of a standard first date. I was wearing a striped sweater, although I would've been more comfortable in a short-sleeved shirt. 

Halfway through my drink, I mentioned how unique Deep Ellum was. It reminded me of my favorite neighborhood in Denver, a city I had left only a few days earlier. There was something new, yet entirely familiar, about your corner of Dallas.

We left the bar and meandered down Elm Street, passing a tattoo parlor that looked identical to the downtown Denver shop where I'd gotten my first--and only-- tat. You gave me a complete tour of the Dallas music district, while I tried to come up with a good reason to see you again. Soon. 

That first night was fast-paced and utterly brilliant. It is the perfect metaphor for our entire relationship. I've grown closer to you in a six-month span than I have ever been to anyone in my 32 years on this planet.

You've approached my insecurities with confidence. You've calmed my fears and repeatedly proven that your support has no expiration date. 

By acknowledging my broken parts and loving me anyway, you've made me feel whole. Less flawed. Adored and admired and appreciated. In truth, you are the gem, my dear...yet all you see is my sparkle.

I came to Texas primarily in the hopes of going to grad school here. Unsurprisingly, I was also searching for my next big adventure. 

Well, I found it in you. You are they journey of a lifetime, Derek. 

Thank you for proving that love can be found in the midst of heartbreak. Thank you for reigniting my hope for the future. I can't wait to be your roommate and travel companion and life partner. You're the best gift I've ever received.

I risked everything by leaving my comfort zone and moving to Texas. Baby, you were worth the risk. 

Love,
Lisa